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Day-After-Diagnosis reactions

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    • April 14, 2017 at 8:11 pm
    Enid Weiss
    Participant

      Dear All,

       

      My diagnosis was just upgraded yesterday to a stage IIIC, after my second PET scan following sentinel lymph node biopsy (positive for melanoma).  Today I am at work and find that I am angry at every person who walks into the office.  Did this happen to you? Is it normal and does it pass? I can't afford to be in a front-lines smilng-to-customer job and get pissed off every time someone asks me a question! (And no – usually, I only get annoyed once in say, 15 encounters, and I hide my annoyance from myself better….)

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        • April 14, 2017 at 8:34 pm
        jennunicorn
        Participant

          That is so very normal and it will pass. You'll get used to your current situtaion, as long as you don't stress over "what ifs", like what may or may not happen in the future and stay in the moment, get through day by day, then it does get easier. For now, embrace the suck, let yourself be pissed of for a day or two, then accept it, and take on each day with a positive mindset.. the best thought being "I am alive today".

            • April 14, 2017 at 8:38 pm
            Enid Weiss
            Participant

              Thanks! I needed to hear it from someone in our community!

            • April 14, 2017 at 9:17 pm
            AvaL
            Participant

              Absolutely 100% normal. You are doing fantastically for functioning enough to go in to work I think. I wasn't the one diagnosed but my husband was (3a) and I felt a range of emotions. Overwhelmed with emotion at points. We're now post dissection and 4 months post diagnosis upgrade and feeling so much better. The anxiety continues with scans and the worry never leaves completely. But it's no longer the all consuming thing it was. I am hoping like it has for us, that the intensity of how you're feeling right now lessens with time and as trust builds again. This diagnosis completely shatters your beliefs I think and it takes a while to recover from that. But you will. Take it easy and look after yourself x

              • April 15, 2017 at 7:56 pm
              J.bun
              Participant

                And it's OK if you have this reaction for several days. N

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