Waiting is killing me

First of all, please don't get ahead of yourself.  Melanoma is still relatively rare and your mole is stastically likely to be something else and benign.  Don't torture yourself with ideas before you even know.  And let me just say if you have doctors who don't explain themselves when they perform invasive procedures – no matter what they are – you need to find  new ones as this has clearly left you  distressed.  All of us here are touched by melanoma in some way and at some level – many of us are parents and have gone through the kind of anxiety you are experiencing so we understand.  That said, odds are in your favor – so just wait for your biopsy results knowing that!  Either way, you have a large and supportive community here to help – good luck and keeping fingers crossed that your results will OK.