The information on this site is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Content within the patient forum is user-generated and has not been reviewed by medical professionals. Other sections of the Melanoma Research Foundation website include information that has been reviewed by medical professionals as appropriate. All medical decisions should be made in consultation with your doctor or other qualified medical professional.

Anxiety waiting for biopsy results

Forums Cutaneous Melanoma Community Anxiety waiting for biopsy results

  • Post
    Nic86597
    Participant

      Hi everyone-

      I'm sure you get posts like this on the forum from time to time. I'm new and just looking to vent a little and for some support.

      I don't have a history of skin cancer (thankfully!) although both my dad and my grandmother have had basal and squamous. But I have lots and lots of moles and have had a total of 4 biopsies over the past 10 years or so. I'm 29 years old.

      My recent biopsy was done on Tues 1/22. It has me so much more worried than the others for some reason. I think it's because I'm a little older now and more aware of what the potential results could mean. I also just had a son in August, so the idea of cancer absolutely terrifies me.

      The mole was a new-ish one. I get new moles all the time and have an annual skin check where I point them out. For whatever reason, when I first noticed this mole it just didn't concern me. I'm so mad at myself for not making an appt right then and there. I've probably had it for a year now. It was right beneath my right breast. It was a dark brown color…no darker than many of my other moles. Very slightly raised. It just didn't alarm me because to me, it looked no different than other moles. I kept an eye on it here and there. I didn't notice any change in it. It didn't hurt, itch or bleed. It was all one color. However, when I pointed it out at my skin check last week, the doctor said "I'm going to want to biopsy that one. I don't like how it looks." and he mentioned something about the borders of it.

      I've slowly started to panic mentally ever since the appt. Thinking to myself…WHY did I not think to get this looked at sooner? It's been a year…if it is in fact melanoma…I'm so worried it has had plenty of time to spread. I work myself into a panic and I know I'm not helping myself by doing this. I'm just so worried and I didn't like his reaction 🙁

      One thing that does somewhat confuse me is that I THINK he did a shave biopsy. I didn't get any stitches and I always did with all my other biopsies. If he was suspicious – shouldn't he have done a punch biopsy?

      Hoping I get the results today or tomorrow. He told me I should hear within a week or so and they assured me they would call me either way. My husband of course just tells me that worrying will make things worse and my mom is an even bigger worrier than me so talking to her panics me more! Lol. Trying soo hard to just stay positive but it's really difficult as the days go by.

      Thanks in advance for any advice or supportive words.

    Viewing 2 reply threads
    • Replies
        WithinMySkin
        Participant
          I saw a sign one time that said “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but gets you nowhere.”

          I know its super duper hard, but worry only works you up over things that haven’t happened yet and may not EVER happen. Try to keep yourself busy with things you love – movies, cooking, going out with the family, whatever works for you. And don’t forget to breathe!! The results will come to you when they are supposed to.

          Health and happiness,
          Lauren

          lkb
          Participant

            Lauren said it so well. I'll just nod and say yep, I agree.

            Nic86597
            Participant

              Thank you both for your replies. I just got the call that my biopsy was benign. I am SO thankful and relieved!! But this has just reinforced that I need to be diligent and get any new mole looked at asap. Doing my own regular skin checks from now on! 

          Viewing 2 reply threads
          • You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
          About the MRF Patient Forum

          The MRF Patient Forum is the oldest and largest online community of people affected by melanoma. It is designed to provide peer support and information to caregivers, patients, family and friends. There is no better place to discuss different parts of your journey with this cancer and find the friends and support resources to make that journey more bearable.

          The information on the forum is open and accessible to everyone. To add a new topic or to post a reply, you must be a registered user. Please note that you will be able to post both topics and replies anonymously even though you are logged in. All posts must abide by MRF posting policies.

          Popular Topics