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    RMJBA
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      I was diagnosed with stage 2 melanoma at the beginning of August. They removed it off my back and I have about a 20 inch scar(could careless it's gone). They removed three lymph nodes each side with 3 of them came back positive.  I then was categorized as stage 3a. It's been a week ago Wednesday that I have had all my lymph nodes removed in my arm pits.  The doctor called said I am cancer free.  I go meet with my oncologist for the first time next week to find out the next step. I just feel like I should do something take something,  I am so afraid they are going to tell me to just get the scans since it is gone. I try not to google because it really does scare me. They keep telling me it can come back    Has anyone had a similar experience and what did you do?  

       

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        Ginger8888
        Participant

          Do you have a melanoma specialist? If not find one…They should be doing scans on you to make sure it hasn't spread anywhere else in your body..I am stage 3 C and have had Interferon (which i failed) and just finished Yervoy, will be rescanned on the 23rd..Good luck!

          Ginger8888
          Participant

            Do you have a melanoma specialist? If not find one…They should be doing scans on you to make sure it hasn't spread anywhere else in your body..I am stage 3 C and have had Interferon (which i failed) and just finished Yervoy, will be rescanned on the 23rd..Good luck!

            Ginger8888
            Participant

              Do you have a melanoma specialist? If not find one…They should be doing scans on you to make sure it hasn't spread anywhere else in your body..I am stage 3 C and have had Interferon (which i failed) and just finished Yervoy, will be rescanned on the 23rd..Good luck!

              Momrn5
              Participant

                Hi, sorry you had to join the club. I am also 3a.  Micro mets in the sentinel node only.  There are not many treatments approved for stage 3a.  Interferon is one but doesn't seem to have much benefit for 90% of the people who take it.  But it does work for some.  If you are at a Melanoma Center of Excellence, they may offer you some type of a clinical trial. There are 1 or 2 out there for 3a. If you aren't at a Melanoma Center of Excellence, then it would be good to go to one.  There are many more treatments and drugs in clinical trials now than ever before that have good results for people with melanoma.  But normally you have to be at a higher stage to get them and usually have to go to one of those Centers for Excellence to get into a clinical trial. The survival stats are probably higher and not accurate at this time because of all the new drugs so don't google that because it is frightening.  If you google Melanoma Centers for Excellence, a list will come up so you can see where the closest one is to you.  If you do a profile so others can see where you live, they would have a lot of good advice for you about good hospitals and doctors closest to you.  So it would be good to fill it out if you would.  There are many experts on here.  You have some time to do your research and make your decision, so take a deep breath. All is not lost.  Best wishes to you.

                Momrn5
                Participant

                  Hi, sorry you had to join the club. I am also 3a.  Micro mets in the sentinel node only.  There are not many treatments approved for stage 3a.  Interferon is one but doesn't seem to have much benefit for 90% of the people who take it.  But it does work for some.  If you are at a Melanoma Center of Excellence, they may offer you some type of a clinical trial. There are 1 or 2 out there for 3a. If you aren't at a Melanoma Center of Excellence, then it would be good to go to one.  There are many more treatments and drugs in clinical trials now than ever before that have good results for people with melanoma.  But normally you have to be at a higher stage to get them and usually have to go to one of those Centers for Excellence to get into a clinical trial. The survival stats are probably higher and not accurate at this time because of all the new drugs so don't google that because it is frightening.  If you google Melanoma Centers for Excellence, a list will come up so you can see where the closest one is to you.  If you do a profile so others can see where you live, they would have a lot of good advice for you about good hospitals and doctors closest to you.  So it would be good to fill it out if you would.  There are many experts on here.  You have some time to do your research and make your decision, so take a deep breath. All is not lost.  Best wishes to you.

                  Momrn5
                  Participant

                    Hi, sorry you had to join the club. I am also 3a.  Micro mets in the sentinel node only.  There are not many treatments approved for stage 3a.  Interferon is one but doesn't seem to have much benefit for 90% of the people who take it.  But it does work for some.  If you are at a Melanoma Center of Excellence, they may offer you some type of a clinical trial. There are 1 or 2 out there for 3a. If you aren't at a Melanoma Center of Excellence, then it would be good to go to one.  There are many more treatments and drugs in clinical trials now than ever before that have good results for people with melanoma.  But normally you have to be at a higher stage to get them and usually have to go to one of those Centers for Excellence to get into a clinical trial. The survival stats are probably higher and not accurate at this time because of all the new drugs so don't google that because it is frightening.  If you google Melanoma Centers for Excellence, a list will come up so you can see where the closest one is to you.  If you do a profile so others can see where you live, they would have a lot of good advice for you about good hospitals and doctors closest to you.  So it would be good to fill it out if you would.  There are many experts on here.  You have some time to do your research and make your decision, so take a deep breath. All is not lost.  Best wishes to you.

                    Linny
                    Participant

                      Sorry to hear you've joined "the club".

                      First off, the fact that your lymph nodes were clear is a very good thing. Staying away from google is also a very good thing.

                      Once you do feel brave enough to start googling, the thing to keep in the back of mind is that many of the statistics are old. Many were based on data gathered in the 90's through the early 2000's. But just within the past 4-5 years there have been some real game-changers in treatment so future statistics will reveal much better outcomes.

                      You've been given some very good advice about making sure you're seen at a center of excellence for melanoma. The melanoma specialists at these places will be the most up to date on treatments and clinical trials.

                      Unfortunately the options for Stage III are few. This is because many do well at that stage. Believe it or not, surgery alone plus reguarly scheduled scans is a viable option. Interferon is another. Unfortunately, interferon doesn't offer a huge benefit over just surgery and scans, and it has some pretty nasty side effects. The third option would be a clinical trial. And, there is one for Stage IIIa that I know of. I think it's called COMBI-AD and your melanoma needs to have a certain mutation in order for you to qualify. There are upsides and downsides to clinical trials: the upside it that you have the opportunity to try out a new promising drug. The downside is that there usually is a placebo involved so you're not guaranteed to get the drug. The main upside, though, is that doctors keep a close eye on you, and I mean CLOSE, which is a very good thing.

                      Another thing to keep in the back of your mind is that it never hurts to get a second opinion.

                      Also, bring someone with you to your appointment who can take notes for you.

                      Linny
                      Participant

                        Sorry to hear you've joined "the club".

                        First off, the fact that your lymph nodes were clear is a very good thing. Staying away from google is also a very good thing.

                        Once you do feel brave enough to start googling, the thing to keep in the back of mind is that many of the statistics are old. Many were based on data gathered in the 90's through the early 2000's. But just within the past 4-5 years there have been some real game-changers in treatment so future statistics will reveal much better outcomes.

                        You've been given some very good advice about making sure you're seen at a center of excellence for melanoma. The melanoma specialists at these places will be the most up to date on treatments and clinical trials.

                        Unfortunately the options for Stage III are few. This is because many do well at that stage. Believe it or not, surgery alone plus reguarly scheduled scans is a viable option. Interferon is another. Unfortunately, interferon doesn't offer a huge benefit over just surgery and scans, and it has some pretty nasty side effects. The third option would be a clinical trial. And, there is one for Stage IIIa that I know of. I think it's called COMBI-AD and your melanoma needs to have a certain mutation in order for you to qualify. There are upsides and downsides to clinical trials: the upside it that you have the opportunity to try out a new promising drug. The downside is that there usually is a placebo involved so you're not guaranteed to get the drug. The main upside, though, is that doctors keep a close eye on you, and I mean CLOSE, which is a very good thing.

                        Another thing to keep in the back of your mind is that it never hurts to get a second opinion.

                        Also, bring someone with you to your appointment who can take notes for you.

                        Linny
                        Participant

                          Sorry to hear you've joined "the club".

                          First off, the fact that your lymph nodes were clear is a very good thing. Staying away from google is also a very good thing.

                          Once you do feel brave enough to start googling, the thing to keep in the back of mind is that many of the statistics are old. Many were based on data gathered in the 90's through the early 2000's. But just within the past 4-5 years there have been some real game-changers in treatment so future statistics will reveal much better outcomes.

                          You've been given some very good advice about making sure you're seen at a center of excellence for melanoma. The melanoma specialists at these places will be the most up to date on treatments and clinical trials.

                          Unfortunately the options for Stage III are few. This is because many do well at that stage. Believe it or not, surgery alone plus reguarly scheduled scans is a viable option. Interferon is another. Unfortunately, interferon doesn't offer a huge benefit over just surgery and scans, and it has some pretty nasty side effects. The third option would be a clinical trial. And, there is one for Stage IIIa that I know of. I think it's called COMBI-AD and your melanoma needs to have a certain mutation in order for you to qualify. There are upsides and downsides to clinical trials: the upside it that you have the opportunity to try out a new promising drug. The downside is that there usually is a placebo involved so you're not guaranteed to get the drug. The main upside, though, is that doctors keep a close eye on you, and I mean CLOSE, which is a very good thing.

                          Another thing to keep in the back of your mind is that it never hurts to get a second opinion.

                          Also, bring someone with you to your appointment who can take notes for you.

                            Annalive
                            Participant

                              Hi,

                              I have ben taking an integrated approach.  PET/CT every 6 months and surgery when necessary (2 x in past 3 years.)  Have not taken any drugs.    Along with your Oncologist, find a FABNO (Naturopath specializing in Oncology.) They will help set up a nutritional support protocol.  Doing many nutritional and "plant" medicines.  Look up " Mistletoe" for cancer.   Pini is the one for Melanoma.  also "Avemar."

                                 I also did 3 rounds 6 weeks each, of local and whole body  hyperthermia,   in B.C. Canada.   Ist time tumor reduced 30% (Pet/CT scan confirmed.)  I think you're wise to want to be doing something even though doc says you're cancer free or NED.  For me, I just figue there will always be a few cells floating around and so my lifestyle has changed to reflect that.  Do not underestimate the power of a clean diet. Look up the Budwig diet as well.  I use the main mox FOCC once per day and have added unpasteurized saurekraut… fermented foods in general.   Anything you can do to support your immune system will begin the healing and allow you to tolerate any protocol you may undertake.  You can search google for positive things regarding melanoma too.  Also, search outside the US.  There are many options.  You can live with this… WIshing you the BEST.  Ann

                              RMJBA
                              Participant

                                Thank you everyone for the information. I am located in Boston and being treated and seen at MGH.  I am starting to do some research before my appointment on WED. I appreciate everyone that has commented it has really helped. I will let you all know what happens after my appointment 

                                thank you all again

                                michelle

                                RMJBA
                                Participant

                                  Thank you everyone for the information. I am located in Boston and being treated and seen at MGH.  I am starting to do some research before my appointment on WED. I appreciate everyone that has commented it has really helped. I will let you all know what happens after my appointment 

                                  thank you all again

                                  michelle

                                  RMJBA
                                  Participant

                                    Thank you everyone for the information. I am located in Boston and being treated and seen at MGH.  I am starting to do some research before my appointment on WED. I appreciate everyone that has commented it has really helped. I will let you all know what happens after my appointment 

                                    thank you all again

                                    michelle

                                    Annalive
                                    Participant

                                      Hi,

                                      I have ben taking an integrated approach.  PET/CT every 6 months and surgery when necessary (2 x in past 3 years.)  Have not taken any drugs.    Along with your Oncologist, find a FABNO (Naturopath specializing in Oncology.) They will help set up a nutritional support protocol.  Doing many nutritional and "plant" medicines.  Look up " Mistletoe" for cancer.   Pini is the one for Melanoma.  also "Avemar."

                                         I also did 3 rounds 6 weeks each, of local and whole body  hyperthermia,   in B.C. Canada.   Ist time tumor reduced 30% (Pet/CT scan confirmed.)  I think you're wise to want to be doing something even though doc says you're cancer free or NED.  For me, I just figue there will always be a few cells floating around and so my lifestyle has changed to reflect that.  Do not underestimate the power of a clean diet. Look up the Budwig diet as well.  I use the main mox FOCC once per day and have added unpasteurized saurekraut… fermented foods in general.   Anything you can do to support your immune system will begin the healing and allow you to tolerate any protocol you may undertake.  You can search google for positive things regarding melanoma too.  Also, search outside the US.  There are many options.  You can live with this… WIshing you the BEST.  Ann

                                      Annalive
                                      Participant

                                        Hi,

                                        I have ben taking an integrated approach.  PET/CT every 6 months and surgery when necessary (2 x in past 3 years.)  Have not taken any drugs.    Along with your Oncologist, find a FABNO (Naturopath specializing in Oncology.) They will help set up a nutritional support protocol.  Doing many nutritional and "plant" medicines.  Look up " Mistletoe" for cancer.   Pini is the one for Melanoma.  also "Avemar."

                                           I also did 3 rounds 6 weeks each, of local and whole body  hyperthermia,   in B.C. Canada.   Ist time tumor reduced 30% (Pet/CT scan confirmed.)  I think you're wise to want to be doing something even though doc says you're cancer free or NED.  For me, I just figue there will always be a few cells floating around and so my lifestyle has changed to reflect that.  Do not underestimate the power of a clean diet. Look up the Budwig diet as well.  I use the main mox FOCC once per day and have added unpasteurized saurekraut… fermented foods in general.   Anything you can do to support your immune system will begin the healing and allow you to tolerate any protocol you may undertake.  You can search google for positive things regarding melanoma too.  Also, search outside the US.  There are many options.  You can live with this… WIshing you the BEST.  Ann

                                      Squash
                                      Participant

                                        I am in a similar situation to you.

                                        I did a lot of research and spent a lot of time googling and reading reports research papers etc.

                                        Bottom line after hundreds of hours of research I realised that most of the treatments offered are not worth taking because of their toxicity. Too many side effects and very poor response rates so better to wait if you are fit and healthy because there may be a time when you have no choice but to roll the dice with these therapies. So wait and see is a very vialbe option. Quality of life should be paramount in any decision making process in my opinion.

                                        What to do in the meantime?

                                        In my opinion you should try and get as fit and healthy as possible which means looking at diet, lifestyle , supplements, stress reducing and immune boosting. Take the opportunity while you are healthy to get more healthy.

                                         

                                         

                                         

                                         

                                         

                                         

                                         

                                         

                                        Squash
                                        Participant

                                          I am in a similar situation to you.

                                          I did a lot of research and spent a lot of time googling and reading reports research papers etc.

                                          Bottom line after hundreds of hours of research I realised that most of the treatments offered are not worth taking because of their toxicity. Too many side effects and very poor response rates so better to wait if you are fit and healthy because there may be a time when you have no choice but to roll the dice with these therapies. So wait and see is a very vialbe option. Quality of life should be paramount in any decision making process in my opinion.

                                          What to do in the meantime?

                                          In my opinion you should try and get as fit and healthy as possible which means looking at diet, lifestyle , supplements, stress reducing and immune boosting. Take the opportunity while you are healthy to get more healthy.

                                           

                                           

                                           

                                           

                                           

                                           

                                           

                                           

                                            RMJBA
                                            Participant

                                              Thank you again for all the replies.  Finally met with DR who I really like and feel comfortable.  The great news he said is I am cancer free and there are two options he can offer .  Interferon is one and to do it for a. Year the chances of it working is 3.5 percent. The other option is I go see him every 6 weeks scans every 6 months.  I really hate going on percentages as it was only a 20 percent chance it would go to nodes and it did.  He said based on me and everything that he has gone over there are places that would not even offer me the interferon. 

                                              I have a seventh month old that I haven't been able to pick up in three weeks,  I can't wait for the drains to come out so I can get healthy again.  I look at my baby and say how can I not do the interferon and then I think how can I miss a year.  I really am just scared and have no idea what to do.  

                                               

                                              Thanks for listening 

                                              michelle

                                              Squash
                                              Participant

                                                You shouldnt do interferon as it doesnt increase overall survival from what I have read and you end up with severe side effects.

                                                It also wrecks your immune system.

                                                Stay healthy and wait and see. There are far better new immuno drugs out there if you need them later on.

                                                 

                                                Squash
                                                Participant

                                                  You shouldnt do interferon as it doesnt increase overall survival from what I have read and you end up with severe side effects.

                                                  It also wrecks your immune system.

                                                  Stay healthy and wait and see. There are far better new immuno drugs out there if you need them later on.

                                                   

                                                  Squash
                                                  Participant

                                                    You shouldnt do interferon as it doesnt increase overall survival from what I have read and you end up with severe side effects.

                                                    It also wrecks your immune system.

                                                    Stay healthy and wait and see. There are far better new immuno drugs out there if you need them later on.

                                                     

                                                    RMJBA
                                                    Participant

                                                      Thank you again for all the replies.  Finally met with DR who I really like and feel comfortable.  The great news he said is I am cancer free and there are two options he can offer .  Interferon is one and to do it for a. Year the chances of it working is 3.5 percent. The other option is I go see him every 6 weeks scans every 6 months.  I really hate going on percentages as it was only a 20 percent chance it would go to nodes and it did.  He said based on me and everything that he has gone over there are places that would not even offer me the interferon. 

                                                      I have a seventh month old that I haven't been able to pick up in three weeks,  I can't wait for the drains to come out so I can get healthy again.  I look at my baby and say how can I not do the interferon and then I think how can I miss a year.  I really am just scared and have no idea what to do.  

                                                       

                                                      Thanks for listening 

                                                      michelle

                                                      RMJBA
                                                      Participant

                                                        Thank you again for all the replies.  Finally met with DR who I really like and feel comfortable.  The great news he said is I am cancer free and there are two options he can offer .  Interferon is one and to do it for a. Year the chances of it working is 3.5 percent. The other option is I go see him every 6 weeks scans every 6 months.  I really hate going on percentages as it was only a 20 percent chance it would go to nodes and it did.  He said based on me and everything that he has gone over there are places that would not even offer me the interferon. 

                                                        I have a seventh month old that I haven't been able to pick up in three weeks,  I can't wait for the drains to come out so I can get healthy again.  I look at my baby and say how can I not do the interferon and then I think how can I miss a year.  I really am just scared and have no idea what to do.  

                                                         

                                                        Thanks for listening 

                                                        michelle

                                                      Squash
                                                      Participant

                                                        I am in a similar situation to you.

                                                        I did a lot of research and spent a lot of time googling and reading reports research papers etc.

                                                        Bottom line after hundreds of hours of research I realised that most of the treatments offered are not worth taking because of their toxicity. Too many side effects and very poor response rates so better to wait if you are fit and healthy because there may be a time when you have no choice but to roll the dice with these therapies. So wait and see is a very vialbe option. Quality of life should be paramount in any decision making process in my opinion.

                                                        What to do in the meantime?

                                                        In my opinion you should try and get as fit and healthy as possible which means looking at diet, lifestyle , supplements, stress reducing and immune boosting. Take the opportunity while you are healthy to get more healthy.

                                                         

                                                         

                                                         

                                                         

                                                         

                                                         

                                                         

                                                         

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