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Converting to hospice care due to brain mets

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    affguy
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      I've been almost entirely a lurker here the last couple of years, with very few posts, but have still very much appreciated the information that others have shared.  Sadly, today it was confirmed that my Dad's battle is ending shortly after failure of BRAF+MEK treatment.  He began it in February of last year, and last month he had throat and shoulder tumors removed (despite an otherwise clean PET scan).  Last week he suddenly became incredibly fatigued, lost his appetite, and had brain mets found on imaging.  Today the neurologist who viewed his MRI told us there are no further treatment options available due to the extent of brain mets and areas involved.  He begins hospice care tomorrow and is not expected to last more than a few weeks.  Fortunately for him, this is not expected to be a physically painful process, though we will have morphine available in that event.  It also seemed to be kind of for the best to see this coming over the last week, which dulled the shock a bit.  This has been and will continue to be an eye opening experience for me, as my experiences with death to date have all been of the sudden and unexpected variety.  It has also raised my awareness, as this morning I made a dermatologist appointment for an unusual lesion/growth on my arm that I'm pretty sure is nothing but am trying to be better safe than sorry.  We can shoulda/woulda/coulda my Dad's initial pursuit of medical care and the path that care has taken (interferon from 9/12 to 6/13, BRAF+MEK from 2/14 to today), and that's probably a normal step of grieving, but if nothing else it has increased the attention my family pays to protecting our skin and watching out for abnormalities.

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        _Paul_
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          Is there a reason why immunotherapy has not been tried? Does he have a melanoma specialist? I realize it may be too little too late, but there are stories of people on death's door that have been saved by trying a different treatment.

          Hoping the best for you and your Dad – Paul.

            affguy
            Participant

              He has been seeing a melanoma specialist, but that doctor is currently out of the country, has been for a few weeks, and will be for another.  He did try interferon treatment immediately upon diagnosis, but I'm unsure why we're not trying ipi, pd-1, or the clinical trial for both right now.  My brain is a bit scrambled at the moment, but my guess is that he's excluded from the trial either by symptomatic brain mets (sleeping 22-23 hours a day) or because of the use of steroids during his last 15 months of BRAF+MEK treatment.  As for why we're not trying one or the other individually, I can only guess.  Yesterday he got another brain MRI and a full CT scan, then had an appointment with a neurologist who showed them that the melanoma is pervasive throughout the brain and in the spinal fluid.  That doctor was the one who said he had no viable treatment options or clinical trials, prescribed hospice care, and stated that he believed it would be over in less than a month.  My guess is that ipi or pd-1 treatments would likely be ineffective because the typical response time is significantly longer than his expected survival time, or as you said, too little too late.  It is unclear to me why alternate treatments weren't started in May when he had the two new tumors (throat and shoulder) removed, but I can't change the past.  We now have confirmed mets in liver, spleen, all vertebrae, spinal fluid and brain, and the ER told him last week they were pretty sure his persistent cough is due to lung mets.  They had another appointment scheduled with an oncologist at the end of yesterday to discuss what else is going on in his body (e.g. lung mets), but by that time my dad had been up and about for 5 hours and taken quite an emotional jolt as well, so when my parents got tired of waiting for the oncologist, they thought about what they'd already been told and went home.

              Want2help
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                Are you in the US? Both Keytruda and Opdivo are approved and some/many insurance companies reimburse them as first line. If I would be you, I would start calling another oncologist and see what the insurance supports. It is not sure that you can do anything but you can at least try. I am very sorry about your dad’s situation!
                Want2help
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                  Are you in the US? Both Keytruda and Opdivo are approved and some/many insurance companies reimburse them as first line. If I would be you, I would start calling another oncologist and see what the insurance supports. It is not sure that you can do anything but you can at least try. I am very sorry about your dad’s situation!
                  Want2help
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                    Are you in the US? Both Keytruda and Opdivo are approved and some/many insurance companies reimburse them as first line. If I would be you, I would start calling another oncologist and see what the insurance supports. It is not sure that you can do anything but you can at least try. I am very sorry about your dad’s situation!
                    Want2help
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                      You can also ask about radiation therapy for the brain mets and if that works, the expanded access program for Ipi+Nivo could be possible.
                      affguy
                      Participant

                        Given that the doctor who stated that no further treatment would be effective was either a neurologist or a neuro oncologist, i.e. not a melanoma specialist, it seems possible that he is unaware of the efficacy of ipi and/or nivo.  I'm wondering if anyone is aware of an intrathecal delivery system for either/both drugs that might reduce the response time, perhaps in concert with whole brain radiation?

                        Want2help
                        Participant
                          Contact a melanoma specialist NOW! Ask for a second opinion. You are loosing time and there is not a lot of time. Do it now!
                          Want2help
                          Participant
                            Contact a melanoma specialist NOW! Ask for a second opinion. You are loosing time and there is not a lot of time. Do it now!
                            Want2help
                            Participant
                              Contact a melanoma specialist NOW! Ask for a second opinion. You are loosing time and there is not a lot of time. Do it now!
                              affguy
                              Participant

                                Given that the doctor who stated that no further treatment would be effective was either a neurologist or a neuro oncologist, i.e. not a melanoma specialist, it seems possible that he is unaware of the efficacy of ipi and/or nivo.  I'm wondering if anyone is aware of an intrathecal delivery system for either/both drugs that might reduce the response time, perhaps in concert with whole brain radiation?

                                affguy
                                Participant

                                  Given that the doctor who stated that no further treatment would be effective was either a neurologist or a neuro oncologist, i.e. not a melanoma specialist, it seems possible that he is unaware of the efficacy of ipi and/or nivo.  I'm wondering if anyone is aware of an intrathecal delivery system for either/both drugs that might reduce the response time, perhaps in concert with whole brain radiation?

                                  Want2help
                                  Participant
                                    You can also ask about radiation therapy for the brain mets and if that works, the expanded access program for Ipi+Nivo could be possible.
                                    Want2help
                                    Participant
                                      You can also ask about radiation therapy for the brain mets and if that works, the expanded access program for Ipi+Nivo could be possible.
                                      _Paul_
                                      Participant

                                        Oh boy. So sorry for you and your Dad. You are all in my prayers.

                                        _Paul_
                                        Participant

                                          Oh boy. So sorry for you and your Dad. You are all in my prayers.

                                          _Paul_
                                          Participant

                                            Oh boy. So sorry for you and your Dad. You are all in my prayers.

                                            affguy
                                            Participant

                                              He has been seeing a melanoma specialist, but that doctor is currently out of the country, has been for a few weeks, and will be for another.  He did try interferon treatment immediately upon diagnosis, but I'm unsure why we're not trying ipi, pd-1, or the clinical trial for both right now.  My brain is a bit scrambled at the moment, but my guess is that he's excluded from the trial either by symptomatic brain mets (sleeping 22-23 hours a day) or because of the use of steroids during his last 15 months of BRAF+MEK treatment.  As for why we're not trying one or the other individually, I can only guess.  Yesterday he got another brain MRI and a full CT scan, then had an appointment with a neurologist who showed them that the melanoma is pervasive throughout the brain and in the spinal fluid.  That doctor was the one who said he had no viable treatment options or clinical trials, prescribed hospice care, and stated that he believed it would be over in less than a month.  My guess is that ipi or pd-1 treatments would likely be ineffective because the typical response time is significantly longer than his expected survival time, or as you said, too little too late.  It is unclear to me why alternate treatments weren't started in May when he had the two new tumors (throat and shoulder) removed, but I can't change the past.  We now have confirmed mets in liver, spleen, all vertebrae, spinal fluid and brain, and the ER told him last week they were pretty sure his persistent cough is due to lung mets.  They had another appointment scheduled with an oncologist at the end of yesterday to discuss what else is going on in his body (e.g. lung mets), but by that time my dad had been up and about for 5 hours and taken quite an emotional jolt as well, so when my parents got tired of waiting for the oncologist, they thought about what they'd already been told and went home.

                                              affguy
                                              Participant

                                                He has been seeing a melanoma specialist, but that doctor is currently out of the country, has been for a few weeks, and will be for another.  He did try interferon treatment immediately upon diagnosis, but I'm unsure why we're not trying ipi, pd-1, or the clinical trial for both right now.  My brain is a bit scrambled at the moment, but my guess is that he's excluded from the trial either by symptomatic brain mets (sleeping 22-23 hours a day) or because of the use of steroids during his last 15 months of BRAF+MEK treatment.  As for why we're not trying one or the other individually, I can only guess.  Yesterday he got another brain MRI and a full CT scan, then had an appointment with a neurologist who showed them that the melanoma is pervasive throughout the brain and in the spinal fluid.  That doctor was the one who said he had no viable treatment options or clinical trials, prescribed hospice care, and stated that he believed it would be over in less than a month.  My guess is that ipi or pd-1 treatments would likely be ineffective because the typical response time is significantly longer than his expected survival time, or as you said, too little too late.  It is unclear to me why alternate treatments weren't started in May when he had the two new tumors (throat and shoulder) removed, but I can't change the past.  We now have confirmed mets in liver, spleen, all vertebrae, spinal fluid and brain, and the ER told him last week they were pretty sure his persistent cough is due to lung mets.  They had another appointment scheduled with an oncologist at the end of yesterday to discuss what else is going on in his body (e.g. lung mets), but by that time my dad had been up and about for 5 hours and taken quite an emotional jolt as well, so when my parents got tired of waiting for the oncologist, they thought about what they'd already been told and went home.

                                              _Paul_
                                              Participant

                                                Is there a reason why immunotherapy has not been tried? Does he have a melanoma specialist? I realize it may be too little too late, but there are stories of people on death's door that have been saved by trying a different treatment.

                                                Hoping the best for you and your Dad – Paul.

                                                _Paul_
                                                Participant

                                                  Is there a reason why immunotherapy has not been tried? Does he have a melanoma specialist? I realize it may be too little too late, but there are stories of people on death's door that have been saved by trying a different treatment.

                                                  Hoping the best for you and your Dad – Paul.

                                                  Mom2Addy
                                                  Participant

                                                    Prayers for your entire family. 

                                                    Mom2Addy
                                                    Participant

                                                      Prayers for your entire family. 

                                                      Mom2Addy
                                                      Participant

                                                        Prayers for your entire family. 

                                                        Marianne quinn
                                                        Participant

                                                          So sorry for you and your family. Immunotherapy can be rough so maybe your oncologist felt it would be too hard for your dad.

                                                            cbeckner98
                                                            Participant

                                                              Sending strength and prayers to you and your family.  Agree with others that it can't hurt to ask one final time about immunotherapy/ipi.  Hopefully something will work and/or your Dad will be comfortable over these coming days.

                                                              Thinking about you and praying for your Dad,

                                                              Carrie

                                                              affguy
                                                              Participant

                                                                Thanks for your kind thoughts.  My dad's normal melanoma specialist was back in the office today after a few weeks out of country, and my folks went to see him armed with all my questions on extending his expected survival long enough to get compassionate use ipi+nivo, as well as a paper on whole brain radiation + ipi that had a fantastic outcome.  Basically the doctor said that he believes my dad is too weak to survive the side effects that would be triggered by measures as aggressive as they would need to be.  Additionally, even if he were capable of tolerating them, they would be more substantial than my dad is willing to endure (loss of memory, cognitive disfunction, etc) and would only result in further side effects from immunotherapy, which my dad expressed disintered in revisiting after his interferon treatments. 

                                                                In the end, the doctor said that sometimes bodies bounce back a bit on their own when a course of treatment (his recent braf+mek combo) is concluded.  If my dad gains weight over the next week without any active treatment, further options may be discussed, but this seems to me to likely just be an attempt at emotional comfort.  At nearly two weeks since LM diagnosis and a week since "less than four weeks" prognosis, right now all I can do is wonder why all we did in May when he developed new tumors in his throat and on his shoulder, despite ongoing braf+mek treatment, was surgically remove them and continue the clearly failing drug regimen. 

                                                                My parents seem to be coming to terms with this prognosis now, so its looking like the kindest thing I can do is probably to get on the same page and just support them in any way I can.

                                                                affguy
                                                                Participant

                                                                  Thanks for your kind thoughts.  My dad's normal melanoma specialist was back in the office today after a few weeks out of country, and my folks went to see him armed with all my questions on extending his expected survival long enough to get compassionate use ipi+nivo, as well as a paper on whole brain radiation + ipi that had a fantastic outcome.  Basically the doctor said that he believes my dad is too weak to survive the side effects that would be triggered by measures as aggressive as they would need to be.  Additionally, even if he were capable of tolerating them, they would be more substantial than my dad is willing to endure (loss of memory, cognitive disfunction, etc) and would only result in further side effects from immunotherapy, which my dad expressed disintered in revisiting after his interferon treatments. 

                                                                  In the end, the doctor said that sometimes bodies bounce back a bit on their own when a course of treatment (his recent braf+mek combo) is concluded.  If my dad gains weight over the next week without any active treatment, further options may be discussed, but this seems to me to likely just be an attempt at emotional comfort.  At nearly two weeks since LM diagnosis and a week since "less than four weeks" prognosis, right now all I can do is wonder why all we did in May when he developed new tumors in his throat and on his shoulder, despite ongoing braf+mek treatment, was surgically remove them and continue the clearly failing drug regimen. 

                                                                  My parents seem to be coming to terms with this prognosis now, so its looking like the kindest thing I can do is probably to get on the same page and just support them in any way I can.

                                                                  affguy
                                                                  Participant

                                                                    Thanks for your kind thoughts.  My dad's normal melanoma specialist was back in the office today after a few weeks out of country, and my folks went to see him armed with all my questions on extending his expected survival long enough to get compassionate use ipi+nivo, as well as a paper on whole brain radiation + ipi that had a fantastic outcome.  Basically the doctor said that he believes my dad is too weak to survive the side effects that would be triggered by measures as aggressive as they would need to be.  Additionally, even if he were capable of tolerating them, they would be more substantial than my dad is willing to endure (loss of memory, cognitive disfunction, etc) and would only result in further side effects from immunotherapy, which my dad expressed disintered in revisiting after his interferon treatments. 

                                                                    In the end, the doctor said that sometimes bodies bounce back a bit on their own when a course of treatment (his recent braf+mek combo) is concluded.  If my dad gains weight over the next week without any active treatment, further options may be discussed, but this seems to me to likely just be an attempt at emotional comfort.  At nearly two weeks since LM diagnosis and a week since "less than four weeks" prognosis, right now all I can do is wonder why all we did in May when he developed new tumors in his throat and on his shoulder, despite ongoing braf+mek treatment, was surgically remove them and continue the clearly failing drug regimen. 

                                                                    My parents seem to be coming to terms with this prognosis now, so its looking like the kindest thing I can do is probably to get on the same page and just support them in any way I can.

                                                                    cbeckner98
                                                                    Participant

                                                                      Sending strength and prayers to you and your family.  Agree with others that it can't hurt to ask one final time about immunotherapy/ipi.  Hopefully something will work and/or your Dad will be comfortable over these coming days.

                                                                      Thinking about you and praying for your Dad,

                                                                      Carrie

                                                                      cbeckner98
                                                                      Participant

                                                                        Sending strength and prayers to you and your family.  Agree with others that it can't hurt to ask one final time about immunotherapy/ipi.  Hopefully something will work and/or your Dad will be comfortable over these coming days.

                                                                        Thinking about you and praying for your Dad,

                                                                        Carrie

                                                                      Marianne quinn
                                                                      Participant

                                                                        So sorry for you and your family. Immunotherapy can be rough so maybe your oncologist felt it would be too hard for your dad.

                                                                        Marianne quinn
                                                                        Participant

                                                                          So sorry for you and your family. Immunotherapy can be rough so maybe your oncologist felt it would be too hard for your dad.

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