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    • March 10, 2015 at 2:51 am
    ashlee12
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      I'm not looking for answered really in this post. I'm looking for people who know what I've been through. 

      My family isbt very understanding just kinda a dont worry about it your fine.. Same with my fiancé…

       

      well what made me upset was tonight I did my skin check and I asked my fiancé to help look at my back and back of my legs because I can't see back there. He got allad when I asked him and just said oh your fine…

       

       

      now I know i obesses.. But I just want some understanding .. I'm alittle on edge after thinking some miles are weird and kinda going into a panic but I huess I just wanna know how to cope.. I'm afraid of new melanomas and I just want to live life but I feel like I'm held back and stuck.

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        • March 10, 2015 at 11:56 am
        Linny
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          What's helped me through times of stress and anxiety is focusing on the positive. I had a cancer scare back in the 90's. After a routine ob-gyn exam, a doctor told me there was a 25% chance I could have it. Like you, I obsessed over that 25% and completely ignored the 75% chance that it was nothing. Once I shifted the way I was thinking I got on with my life and coped well with my surgery. And, it ended up being nothing.

          Girl, at Stage 1 you are obsessing over a less than 10% of a recurrence. Please let that sink in. Most of the people here are not that lucky.

          The first step toward coping with your anxiety is to tell yourself over and over again that you have a 90% chance of never having to deal with it again. Never. Make that your mantra. Every time that nagging fear hits you, remind yourself of that 90% statistic. That's how you begin to dig yourself out of the hole you've put yourself into. No one else can do it for you.

          • March 10, 2015 at 11:56 am
          Linny
          Participant

            What's helped me through times of stress and anxiety is focusing on the positive. I had a cancer scare back in the 90's. After a routine ob-gyn exam, a doctor told me there was a 25% chance I could have it. Like you, I obsessed over that 25% and completely ignored the 75% chance that it was nothing. Once I shifted the way I was thinking I got on with my life and coped well with my surgery. And, it ended up being nothing.

            Girl, at Stage 1 you are obsessing over a less than 10% of a recurrence. Please let that sink in. Most of the people here are not that lucky.

            The first step toward coping with your anxiety is to tell yourself over and over again that you have a 90% chance of never having to deal with it again. Never. Make that your mantra. Every time that nagging fear hits you, remind yourself of that 90% statistic. That's how you begin to dig yourself out of the hole you've put yourself into. No one else can do it for you.

            • March 10, 2015 at 11:56 am
            Linny
            Participant

              What's helped me through times of stress and anxiety is focusing on the positive. I had a cancer scare back in the 90's. After a routine ob-gyn exam, a doctor told me there was a 25% chance I could have it. Like you, I obsessed over that 25% and completely ignored the 75% chance that it was nothing. Once I shifted the way I was thinking I got on with my life and coped well with my surgery. And, it ended up being nothing.

              Girl, at Stage 1 you are obsessing over a less than 10% of a recurrence. Please let that sink in. Most of the people here are not that lucky.

              The first step toward coping with your anxiety is to tell yourself over and over again that you have a 90% chance of never having to deal with it again. Never. Make that your mantra. Every time that nagging fear hits you, remind yourself of that 90% statistic. That's how you begin to dig yourself out of the hole you've put yourself into. No one else can do it for you.

              • March 10, 2015 at 1:47 pm
              ed williams
              Participant

                Ashlee 12 maybe it is time to seek professional help with the panic attacks. Wishing you the best of luck. Ed

                • March 10, 2015 at 1:47 pm
                ed williams
                Participant

                  Ashlee 12 maybe it is time to seek professional help with the panic attacks. Wishing you the best of luck. Ed

                    • March 10, 2015 at 2:27 pm
                    JC
                    Participant

                      Research shows that cancer diagnosis (and recurrence) can be considered a traumatic event. In certain cases, this trauma may lead to symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). There are tools to deal with the trauma. 

                      • March 10, 2015 at 2:27 pm
                      JC
                      Participant

                        Research shows that cancer diagnosis (and recurrence) can be considered a traumatic event. In certain cases, this trauma may lead to symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). There are tools to deal with the trauma. 

                        • March 10, 2015 at 2:27 pm
                        JC
                        Participant

                          Research shows that cancer diagnosis (and recurrence) can be considered a traumatic event. In certain cases, this trauma may lead to symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). There are tools to deal with the trauma. 

                        • March 10, 2015 at 1:47 pm
                        ed williams
                        Participant

                          Ashlee 12 maybe it is time to seek professional help with the panic attacks. Wishing you the best of luck. Ed

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