@specka
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- January 20, 2016 at 4:15 am
Hello,
You aren’t alone. I am the wife of a melanoma warrior. We were dating, He was diagnosed stage 3b, then we got married almost one year ago. We we’re devastated when they did the next scans and found out it spread to the liver. I noticed mood swings, short fuse, anger.. the works. I actually asked the doctors if it could be a side effect from the medicine. They said it was likely stress and possibly depression. I tried getting him to see a therapist, that didn’t fly. You may have better luck. Hopefully he will come around. You are his support. But not his punching bag. Try talking to him. I talked to my husband about what was going on. Told him I know he’s stressed and scared and that I am too.Caregivers are supposed to keep it together. I know it’s hard to do. Perhaps when he’s rude, leave the room. You may consider seeing a therapist yourself. That will give you someone to talk to and learn how to interpret your own emotion and his. Ultimately, you have no power of how people treat you. But you do have control of how you feel and react in situations where you aren’t treated like you should be. He may actually pick up in it and re-evaluate his actions.
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- January 20, 2016 at 4:15 am
Hello,
You aren’t alone. I am the wife of a melanoma warrior. We were dating, He was diagnosed stage 3b, then we got married almost one year ago. We we’re devastated when they did the next scans and found out it spread to the liver. I noticed mood swings, short fuse, anger.. the works. I actually asked the doctors if it could be a side effect from the medicine. They said it was likely stress and possibly depression. I tried getting him to see a therapist, that didn’t fly. You may have better luck. Hopefully he will come around. You are his support. But not his punching bag. Try talking to him. I talked to my husband about what was going on. Told him I know he’s stressed and scared and that I am too.Caregivers are supposed to keep it together. I know it’s hard to do. Perhaps when he’s rude, leave the room. You may consider seeing a therapist yourself. That will give you someone to talk to and learn how to interpret your own emotion and his. Ultimately, you have no power of how people treat you. But you do have control of how you feel and react in situations where you aren’t treated like you should be. He may actually pick up in it and re-evaluate his actions.
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- January 20, 2016 at 4:15 am
Hello,
You aren’t alone. I am the wife of a melanoma warrior. We were dating, He was diagnosed stage 3b, then we got married almost one year ago. We we’re devastated when they did the next scans and found out it spread to the liver. I noticed mood swings, short fuse, anger.. the works. I actually asked the doctors if it could be a side effect from the medicine. They said it was likely stress and possibly depression. I tried getting him to see a therapist, that didn’t fly. You may have better luck. Hopefully he will come around. You are his support. But not his punching bag. Try talking to him. I talked to my husband about what was going on. Told him I know he’s stressed and scared and that I am too.Caregivers are supposed to keep it together. I know it’s hard to do. Perhaps when he’s rude, leave the room. You may consider seeing a therapist yourself. That will give you someone to talk to and learn how to interpret your own emotion and his. Ultimately, you have no power of how people treat you. But you do have control of how you feel and react in situations where you aren’t treated like you should be. He may actually pick up in it and re-evaluate his actions.
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- January 25, 2016 at 1:03 am
I have seen a lot of people on this board say Their doc checks their ankles. I have never noticed if the docs do. I will be more aware next time.Yes, I am huge huge lurker. I am on this board at least every other day. My husband is stage 4 with Mets in his lungs, liver, spleen and chest lymph nodes. He did ippy after having the surgeries to remove the lymph nodes. Went on keytruda and is now on taflinar and mekinist. He’s having a ton of issues with this new combo. he’s toughing through the side effects. But his joints are killing him. We go to MDAnderson next week, where we will mention the issues. Meanwhile, I will get some aleve and prep a foot soak. Thank you for commenting.
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- January 25, 2016 at 1:03 am
I have seen a lot of people on this board say Their doc checks their ankles. I have never noticed if the docs do. I will be more aware next time.Yes, I am huge huge lurker. I am on this board at least every other day. My husband is stage 4 with Mets in his lungs, liver, spleen and chest lymph nodes. He did ippy after having the surgeries to remove the lymph nodes. Went on keytruda and is now on taflinar and mekinist. He’s having a ton of issues with this new combo. he’s toughing through the side effects. But his joints are killing him. We go to MDAnderson next week, where we will mention the issues. Meanwhile, I will get some aleve and prep a foot soak. Thank you for commenting.
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- January 25, 2016 at 1:03 am
I have seen a lot of people on this board say Their doc checks their ankles. I have never noticed if the docs do. I will be more aware next time.Yes, I am huge huge lurker. I am on this board at least every other day. My husband is stage 4 with Mets in his lungs, liver, spleen and chest lymph nodes. He did ippy after having the surgeries to remove the lymph nodes. Went on keytruda and is now on taflinar and mekinist. He’s having a ton of issues with this new combo. he’s toughing through the side effects. But his joints are killing him. We go to MDAnderson next week, where we will mention the issues. Meanwhile, I will get some aleve and prep a foot soak. Thank you for commenting.
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- January 5, 2016 at 4:34 am
Oh, and I would shy away from having a local oncologist do the surgery. Its completely my opinion, but I would want someone who knows melanoma very well to be sure they get it all. Also, they may suggest radiation. If so, I would personally have the radiation done there. They are masters of their art. -
- January 5, 2016 at 4:34 am
Oh, and I would shy away from having a local oncologist do the surgery. Its completely my opinion, but I would want someone who knows melanoma very well to be sure they get it all. Also, they may suggest radiation. If so, I would personally have the radiation done there. They are masters of their art. -
- January 5, 2016 at 4:34 am
Oh, and I would shy away from having a local oncologist do the surgery. Its completely my opinion, but I would want someone who knows melanoma very well to be sure they get it all. Also, they may suggest radiation. If so, I would personally have the radiation done there. They are masters of their art.
